Trashing the Dress – Yay or Nay?

“Trashing” the wedding dress seems to be a growing trend. Amid thoughts of “I’ll only wear it once”, and “It will make GREAT pictures”, many brides are searching for more and more unusual ways to destroy their wedding dresses. Jumping into a river, a lake, the ocean, running through sprinklers, paintball shootouts, setting it on fire (!!!!) – these are all examples of pictures I’ve seen. But I have to say I’m pretty old fashioned when it comes to saving a wedding dress. 34 years ago, I preserved my dress, in the romantic hope that maybe one day my daughter would want to wear it (of course, she doesn’t like it at all, but there’s still hope for my granddaughter – LOL). You may spend hours and hours searching for that perfect dress – going through magazines, watching every episode of “Say Yes To The Dress”, pinning your heart out on Pinterest. And then there’s all the dresses you actually try on, before you find just the right one. I personally can’t see destroying that beautiful dress, but that’s just me. You may feel differently. Whatever you do, give it a lot of thought first. You can’t go back and “untrash” the dress! And on yeah – my daughter’s not wearing my dress, but she is using lace from it to wrap around her bouquet, and you know what? That makes saving it all worthwhile 🙂

Happy Wedding Planning!

Wedding Reading of the Week – Edward Monkton

This is absolutely one of my favorites. The tale of two dinosaurs just resonates with me for some reason. I hope you enjoy it 🙂

“The fierce Dinosaur was trapped inside his cage of ice. Although it was cold he was happy in there. It was, after all, his cage.
Then along came the Lovely Other Dinosaur. The Lovely Other Dinosaur melted the Dinosaur’s cage with kind words and loving thoughts.
I like this Dinosaur thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. Although he is fierce he is also tender and he is funny. He is also quite clever though I will not tell him this for now.
I like this Lovely Other Dinosaur, thought the Dinosaur. She is beautiful and she is different and she smells so nice. She is also a free spirit which is a quality I much admire in a dinosaur.
But he can be so distant and so peculiar at times, thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. He is also overly fond of things. Are all Dinosaurs so overly fond of things?
But her mind skips from here to there so quickly thought the Dinosaur. She is also uncommonly keen on shopping. Are all Lovely Other Dinosaurs so uncommonly keen on shopping?
I will forgive his peculiarity and his concern for things, thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. For they are part of what makes him a richly charactered individual.
I will forgive her skipping mind and her fondness for shopping, thought the Dinosaur. For she fills our life with beautiful thoughts and wonderful surprises. Besides, I am not unkeen on shopping either.
Now the Dinosaur and the Lovely Other Dinosaur are old. Look at them. Together they stand on the hill telling each other stories and feeling the warmth of the sun on their backs.
And that, my friends, is how it is with love. Let us all be Dinosaurs and Lovely Other Dinosaurs together. For the sun is warm. And the world is a beautiful place.”

Wedding Reading Of The Week – Hunter Hayes

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Photo Courtesy of http://www.hunterhayes.com


This week’s reading is actually some song lyrics from a great new song by country singer Hunter Hayes. The song is called “I Want Crazy”:

“But I don’t want “good” and I don’t want “good enough”
I want “can’t sleep, can’t breathe without you” love
Front porch and one more kiss, it doesn’t make sense to anybody else
Who cares if you’re all I think about,
I’ve searched the world and I know now,
It ain’t right if you ain’t lost your mind.
Yeah, I don’t want easy, I want crazy.
Are you with me baby? Let’s be crazy.”

Want to hear it sung? Here’s the YouTube link:

Happy Wedding Planning 🙂

Wedding Reading Of The Week – Robert Fulghum

Robert Fulghum may be best known for his wonderful book,

    All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten

He wrote a wonderful piece called “Union”, however, that you may find perfect for your wedding ceremony:

“You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks – all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will”- those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this – is my husband, this – is my wife.”

Happy Wedding Planning!

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What will my Officiant be wearing?

Fran Calhoon, Wedding Officiant
Have you given any thought to what your Officiant will be wearing? Since she/he will be in several of your photos, you might want to think about it! Are you having a religious ceremony? Then you’ll probably want your Officiant to wear a clerical robe (I personally give my couples a choice of black, pink, or light blue!) If it’s more of a secular service, then a nice dress or suit may be more appropriate. And on the beach? Something less formal, perhaps. This is one other thing you should discuss with your Officiant prior to your ceremony. It’s one of my questions to a couple when we meet – what would you like me to wear? I definitely want to present the appearance they were hoping for, and I also want to make sure I don’t clash with the wedding party! I know that a lot of couples spend a great deal of time picturing how the bridal party will look at the altar – colors, height, etc. Remember that your Officiant will be right in the middle, and he/she should blend well with everyone else 🙂 Happy Wedding Planning!

Wedding Reading of the Week – Thomas Hardy

Image courtesy of www.slate.com

Image courtesy of http://www.slate.com


I found this passage from Thomas Hardy’s “Far From The Madding Crowd” when I was researching material for a couple who met while both were vacationing in Mexico. Though from different parts of the country, they began a long distance relationship that eventually led to marriage. I found the words in this excerpt to be so relevant as they applied in that situation. It may work well for you too!
“We are all on our own paths, all on our own journeys.
Sometimes the paths cross, and people arrive at the crossing points at the same time and meet each other. There are greetings, pleasantries are exchanged, and then they move on. But then once in a while the pleasantries become more, friendship grows, deeper links are made, hands are joined and love flies. The friendship has turned to love.”