When I first meet with a couple, one of the questions I always ask is if anyone is “giving away” the bride, and if so, what wording they would like to have used. The traditional has always been that the father walks the daughter down the aisle, and when questioned, replies, “I do.” But we are no longer in a traditional world, and since brides no longer come with a dowry, this custom has seen some significant changes.
There are many alternatives to the traditional, if you want something different. I’ve listed a few for your consideration:
Dad walks bride down aisle, responds with “Her mother and I do.”
Dad and Mom walk bride down aisle, respond with “We do.”
Dad and/or Mom (or Stepmom, or Stepdad – whatever the family dynamic) walks bride down aisle. Officiant states, “Marriage is in itself a blessing. But doubly blessed is the couple who comes to the marriage altar with the approval and love of their families and friends. Who has the honor of presenting this woman to be married to this man?
Answer: “On behalf of her loving family and friends, I do.”
One of the newer responses to the Officiant’s question has been a variation on the following:
Officiant: “Who gives this woman to be married to this man?”
Answer: “She comes of her own accord, but with her family’s blessing.” (or, “with the blessing of her Mother and I.”)
Your Officiant can offer many suggestions regarding this part of the ceremony – some choose to skip it all together – remember – it’s YOUR ceremony! Talk to your Officiant about what YOU want!