Every Mother dreams of watching her daughter walk down the aisle on her wedding day. It’s full of emotion – that’s her baby girl, will she be happy, oh my goodness, she looks so beautiful! All these thoughts and more are running through her mind. The Mother of the Groom has similar feelings. And yet, sometimes Mom might feel a little left out. Though some brides are having both their Mom and Dad walk them down the aisle, most are still escorted by just Dad. If you’d like to give Mom a little attention, here’s a suggestion, and it’s almost guaranteed to make her tear up. I call this “Roses To Moms” when I discuss it with my couples. Simply put, it’s a presentation of roses (eternal symbols of love) to the Moms during the ceremony, accompanied by words about how the marriage not only brings two people together, but two families as well, and the couple wish to express their gratitude to their families by presenting each Mom with a rose. Short, simple, and heartfelt. Consider if it you’d like to honor the families without a complete Family Unity Ceremony. Happy Wedding Planning!
If you are searching for a beautiful outdoor venue in Southern Maryland, be sure to check out Greenwell State Park. http://greenwellfoundation.org/site-rentals You will also hear it referred to as Rosedale Manor. It’s located in Hollywood, nestled high on the banks of the Patuxent River, and covers nearly 600 acres of woods and parkland. It also has a beach. There’s a small inn onsite where the couple can spend the night (Knott Lodge), and the historic Rosedale Manor house can be used to get ready on the big day. A tent is usually set up for the reception. I have the privilege of officiating several weddings here this year, and each one is always gorgeous! Definitely worth a look if you’re checking out the area!
This week’s reading comes from singer/songwriter Bob Marley, and is probably a little different from what you’d normally expect from him. I find it very appropriate, depending on the couple.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
Many brides have always envisioned themselves gliding down a beautiful white runner, covered in artfully dropped rose petals. But do you need it? Let’s talk about a few different instances, like, if you’re outdoors if you’ve ever seen the wind pick up the tail end of the runner and literally “chase” the bride down the aisle, you’ll know this is not the elegant entrance you were hoping for. If you decide you must have that runner, please make sure whoever rolls it out anchors the end with something to stop it from blowing in the breeze. And speaking of rolling it out – this is a critical piece of logistics. Most brides opt to have the runner unfurled right before the flower girl – so make sure someone has been assigned this task, and knows the right way to roll it out!
I’ve seen a lot of DIY runners on Pinterest, and some of them are pretty cool. They could be great keepsakes, if you stop them from being torn or badly dirtied. Remember, after the Recessional, EVERYONE is going to walk on that runner. So unless you’re prepared to have it rolled up as soon as the bridal party recesses, plan on the probability of some damage to it.
There are some pretty alternatives. Flower petals can be scattered along the aisle (rather heavily) before the guests arrive, or even arranged in a swirled or other pattern. If you want to keep this pretty, it’s a good idea to ribbon off the entrance to the aisle and let guests enter along the ends of the rows. You can also put petals along the edges of the aisle – still very attractive, but not as likely to be messed up by people walking along.
Please remember that this is more a “picture moment” than a practical moment. If the plan was to stop the bottom of your gown from getting stained, a runner won’t really help. Chances are you will be walking a lot before you ever get to the runner!
So, stop and think why you really want that runner, and then make the decision that’s best for YOU!
There are so many ways to add something customized to your wedding ceremony. One of the best ways is to include a reading, either by a friend, relative, or the Officiant. I always ask my couples who their favorite authors are, and then include a relevant quote from that person (and sometimes, yes, it CAN be challenging to find a suitable quote depending on the author!!!!) I’ll be posting suggestions here on a weekly basis. Maybe you’ll find something that you like. I’ll be including some of the more common ones, and some that are a little more obscure. I hope you enjoy them, and feel free to suggest some of your own!
Today’s reading comes from Albert Einstein, and was brought to my attention by Megan, one of my brides – thanks, Megan!
“Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with that special girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.”
I just came across my new favorite song for the Father/Daughter dance. It was written and recorded by new country singer Krystal Keith for her dance with megastar Dad Toby Keith on her wedding day. Take a listen and see what YOU think!