This week’s reading comes from singer/songwriter Bob Marley, and is probably a little different from what you’d normally expect from him. I find it very appropriate, depending on the couple.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
Many brides have always envisioned themselves gliding down a beautiful white runner, covered in artfully dropped rose petals. But do you need it? Let’s talk about a few different instances, like, if you’re outdoors if you’ve ever seen the wind pick up the tail end of the runner and literally “chase” the bride down the aisle, you’ll know this is not the elegant entrance you were hoping for. If you decide you must have that runner, please make sure whoever rolls it out anchors the end with something to stop it from blowing in the breeze. And speaking of rolling it out – this is a critical piece of logistics. Most brides opt to have the runner unfurled right before the flower girl – so make sure someone has been assigned this task, and knows the right way to roll it out!
I’ve seen a lot of DIY runners on Pinterest, and some of them are pretty cool. They could be great keepsakes, if you stop them from being torn or badly dirtied. Remember, after the Recessional, EVERYONE is going to walk on that runner. So unless you’re prepared to have it rolled up as soon as the bridal party recesses, plan on the probability of some damage to it.
There are some pretty alternatives. Flower petals can be scattered along the aisle (rather heavily) before the guests arrive, or even arranged in a swirled or other pattern. If you want to keep this pretty, it’s a good idea to ribbon off the entrance to the aisle and let guests enter along the ends of the rows. You can also put petals along the edges of the aisle – still very attractive, but not as likely to be messed up by people walking along.
Please remember that this is more a “picture moment” than a practical moment. If the plan was to stop the bottom of your gown from getting stained, a runner won’t really help. Chances are you will be walking a lot before you ever get to the runner!
So, stop and think why you really want that runner, and then make the decision that’s best for YOU!
There are so many ways to add something customized to your wedding ceremony. One of the best ways is to include a reading, either by a friend, relative, or the Officiant. I always ask my couples who their favorite authors are, and then include a relevant quote from that person (and sometimes, yes, it CAN be challenging to find a suitable quote depending on the author!!!!) I’ll be posting suggestions here on a weekly basis. Maybe you’ll find something that you like. I’ll be including some of the more common ones, and some that are a little more obscure. I hope you enjoy them, and feel free to suggest some of your own!
Today’s reading comes from Albert Einstein, and was brought to my attention by Megan, one of my brides – thanks, Megan!
“Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with that special girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.”
I just came across my new favorite song for the Father/Daughter dance. It was written and recorded by new country singer Krystal Keith for her dance with megastar Dad Toby Keith on her wedding day. Take a listen and see what YOU think!
Ring bearers are absolutely adorable! Everybody loves them, they make everyone smile, and the pictures turn out SO cute! But is it REALLY a good idea to let a young child carry the rings? It may come down to the age/maturity of the child. I have officiated many weddings where the Ring Bearer never made it to the altar! They get shy, or distracted (I had one go off to pick dandelions instead of walking down the aisle 🙂 I’m sure you’ve seen a little boy or little girl balk at the beginning of the walk and have to be coaxed down. Or, the rings may get dropped along the way. It doesn’t cause any problems at all, UNLESS they happen to actually have the wedding bands! There is a simple solution to this. Let the Ring Bearer carry a ring repository – a pillow, or a box, or whatever creative way you’ve designed to look fantastic, BUT, don’t put the real rings on it (if they are going to be visible, use fake rings; if you’re using an enclosed repository, leave it empty, since they won’t be seen anyway). Let the Best Man/Best Woman carry them (whoever has pockets is your best bet). Then, when the Officiant says, “May I have the rings, please?”, you’ll be assured that they will be there, and will be safe. And it won’t take a single thing away from your Ring Bearer.
One Caveat: If the Ring Bearer is older, he or she may have strong feelings about their role in the ceremony – in this case, if you are confident that the child is mature enough, then by all means, let her/him carry the rings! It will make the ceremony much more meaningful for the child, and possibly for you, if the child is your son or daughter or a close relative.
Remember – it’s YOUR wedding – do what you want. Just think it through before you hand off your wedding bands to a 2 year old 🙂